STAND UP TO BULLYING!
What is Bullying?
- Repeated-typically repeated over time
- Intentional-the bully intends to hurt the target
- Power-it involves an imbalance of power or strength
Bullying may take many forms, such as:
- Physical-hitting or punching
- Verbal-teasing or name calling
- Non-verbal-intimidation, using gestures, social exclusion
- Cyberbullying-sending insulting messages by text, email, or via social media
What to do if your child is the target of a bully:
- First, focus on your child. Be supportive and gather information about the bullying.
- Never tell your child to ignore the bullying. What the child may “hear” is that you are going to ignore it. If the child were able to simply ignore it, he or she likely would not have told you about it. Often, trying to ignore bullying allows it to become more serious.
- Listen carefully to what your child tells you about the bullying. Ask him or her to describe who was involved and how and where each bullying episode happened.
- Learn as much as you can about the bullying tactics used, and when and where the bullying happened. Can your child name other children or adults who may have witnessed the bullying?
- Empathize with your child. Tell him/her that bullying is wrong, not their fault, and that you are glad he or she had the courage to tell you about it.
- Ask your child what he or she thinks can be done to help. Assure him or her that you will think about what needs to be done and you will let him or her know what you are going to do.
- If you disagree with how your child handled the bullying situation, avoid criticizing him or her.
- Do not encourage physical retaliation (“Just hit them back”) as a solution. Hitting another student is not likely to end the problem, and it could get your child suspended or expelled or escalate the situation.
- Check your emotions. A parent's protective instincts stir strong emotions. Although it is difficult, a parent is wise to step back and consider the next steps carefully.
- Be sure to contact your child's teacher or principal with the information that you have gathered from your child.
- Expect the bullying to stop. Talk regularly with your child and with school staff to see whether the bullying has stopped.
- If the bullying persists, contact school authorities again.